Wednesday, March 31, 2010

I Beelieve..

I found the most amazing Blog yesterday..In one post I found a wonderful quote and the most amazing letter Karen found in a magazine that she wanted to share.A letter, we all wish to share with our own daughters.When you keep reading..Oh it's simply wonderful! Here is the letter that moved me to tears and made me fan of Karen,her thoughts,her creations,her heart.

Dear Emotional Creature:

I believe in you. I believe in your authenticity, your uniqueness, your intensity, your wildness. I love the way you dye your hair purple, or hike up your short skirt, or blare your music while you lip-synch every single memorized lyric. I love your restlessness and your hunger. You possess the energy that, if unleashed, could transform, inspire and heal the world.

Everyone seems to have a certain way they want you to be - your mother, father, teachers, religious leaders, politicians, boyfriends, fashion gurus, celebrities, girlfriends. In reporting my new book, I learned a very disturbing statistic: 74 percent of young women say they are under pressure to please everyone.

I have done a lot of thinking about what it means to please: to be the wish or will of somebody other than yourself. To please the fashion setters, we starve ourselves. To please men, we push ourselves when we aren’t ready. To please our parents, we become insane overachievers. If you are trying to please, how do you take responsibility for your own needs? How do you even know what your own needs are? The act of pleasing makes everything murky. We lose track of ourselves. We stop uttering declaratory sentences. We stop directing our lives. We forget what we know. We make everything OK rather than real.

I have had the good fortune to travel around the world. Everywhere I meet teenage girls and women giggling, laughing as they walk country roads or hang out on city streets. Electric girls. I see how their lives get hijacked, how their opinions and desires get denied and undone. So many of the women I have met are still struggling late into their lives to know their desires, to find their way.

Instead of trying to please, this is a challenge to provoke, to satisfy your own imagination and appetite. To take responsibility for who you are, to engage. Listen to the voice inside you that might want something different. It’s a call to your original self, to move at your own speed, to walk with your step, to wear your color.

When I was your age, I didn’t know how to live as an emotional creature. I felt like an alien. I still do a lot of the time. I am older now. I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be OK with being different, with being this alive, this intense. I just don’t want you to have to wait that long.

Eve Ensler

My Dancer

Magaly from has graciously honored me.

Thank you Sweet Magaly.I will be passing along this generous award soon.

As always,thank you so much for stopping by


Kass said...

Oh, this is most wonderful. Eve Ensler and her Vagina Monologes have had a huge impact on the world. Thank you for spreading this healing declaration!

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Brenda LaBell said...

Beautiful and so true!! Children are amazing loves of our lives and sometimes we forget that they need our encouragement and willingness to accept them for who they are. Great post Cat!

Hope your having a wonderful week

Riki Schumacher said...

Oh this is lovely, so well written. Wish my Mom had written it to me, but we have it now! Thanks Cat. Hugs, Riki

La Dolce Vita said...

awesome post Cat, well done and so true!

^..^Corgidogmama said...

Incredible post...thank you SO much for sharing!

Karen Mowrey said...

oh Cat thank yo so much for the link and kind words...i have not been as 'bloggy' as i would like to be and i am honored that you found something good to pass on...that is what it is all about so thanks again!